Relationships: Can Someone Fear Human Contact If They Had An Intrusive Caregiver?

One thing people be struggling with is feeling lonely and isolated from other people. In this moment they might be desperate to be in contact with another human being and hope that they’ll soon be spending time with some other people.

If this were to happen it doesn’t mean their entire being will show in the form of another. That is their physical self would exist, but that doesn’t mean their emotional self is present.

An Analogy

It’s similar to feeling extremely hungry, and eating an appetizer at an eatery, rather than eating a three-course dinner. It’s certainly more than enough, but it’s not going to leave people feeling full.

It will only take away the feeling from their desire (loneliness) but it won’t take long before they return to the way they used to be before. They’ll have eaten fast food and then they will be able to return to the way they were prior to.


To be able to get the nutrients they require to thrive, it is essential for their mental self to be present. Of course, it will help them to meet a lot of their requirements.

In addition it also allows the person to be fully present and not just be a part of the scene. This is can take place when they’re within a group, changing into the person that another prefers them to be.

The False Self

They can appear friendly, relaxed and submissive at this point. Because of this they appear as a part of someone else rather than an individual who is a person with their individual needs, desires and desires.

In order for them to be in touch with themselves It might be essential for them to work in their own business. If this is the situation then being on their own will not be satisfying, nor doing work with someone else.

Two Options

It could be something they don’t know about however it may be something they know about. If they’re fully aware, they might be tired of feeling isolated and lost in other people.

They may get to the point at which even though they are lonely, it may be, they prefer to be alone. It will be difficult, but it’s going to keep them from having to perform for other people.

A Strange Scenario

What is normal for them to feel at ease within their own environment and relaxed in the company of other people. This allows people to feel at ease with who they are, regardless of whether the situation.

What this will do is allow them to develop deeper connections with other people and be more intimate. In terms of intimate relationships, this could be an additional area of their lives that creates lots of issues.

A Closer Look

When they first begin spending in a relationship, they’re likely to be hesitant to reveal the person they really are, like they do when they are in relationships. But, this could be a time where they feel so happy to have a human connection with someone with whom they feel attracted.

However, as the years forward and more is demanded of them, they may soon find themselves in a position where they have to back off. This could be due to the fact that they have begun to express their emotions and is urging them to follow suit or simply because they’re building bonds that are stronger.

The Meaning

When you take all of this into consideration and also the fact that people lose their identity around other people and only be connected to oneself when they’re on their own and are uncomfortable being close to an individual, what’s clear is that interaction with other humans isn’t thought of as being positive. On one level, they’ll desire this since they are a self-sufficient human being, but in another way, they don’t.

They aren’t comfortable enough to be able to show their identity or become too close to a person This is the reason they prefer to remain by their own. While it feels safe but living this way can be detrimental to them.

A Deeper Look

What this might mean the fact that they’ve lived in this manner since they remember it is the fact that boundaries seldom or never respected in their beginning days. They were at that time more of an object rather than a distinct entity with desires, needs and feelings and that could cause them to be broken in big as well as small ways.

In the absence of power as well as dependent upon their caregivers at this point in their lives, their only alternatives would be to be able to live with what was happening and to remain in their own world. Another option that could have taken place to safeguard them from suffering was that they’d be disconnected from their inner self.


Being unable to express their feelings or escaping from the world would not have altered what was happening However, it would prevent people from being aware. They’d then be capable of being abused while not being aware of the situation.

The person (or individuals) whom they were expected to protect and love them, would have deeply traumatized them, preventing them from growing correctly creating boundaries, and setting them up to be scared of the human touch. They may also have led them to lose touch with their instincts of aggression and fight, which in turn they were left vulnerable and vulnerable. They were unable to defend themselves.

Another Element

If they stand their ground and refusing to be a part of the solution it can be interpreted as a sign that they are causing people to be disregarded as well as abandoned and eventually the rest of their lives be put to rest. Being rejected or abandoned was likely to be what occurred as they attempted to assert their identity as children. If they were left behind likely thought they were going to die.

In securing themselves by separating themselves, they won’t have to be assertive and they’ll be able keep themselves from releasing emotional wounds that are a result of feeling unloved and neglected. The reason behind this is that , just as when they were children and were a child, they’ll be able to let go of what they feel and let go of their body and to their mind.


If someone is able to relate to this, and is eager to make a change in their life it is possible that they will have to seek outside help. This kind of support is possible through the therapist or healer.

There are emotional wounds they must heal , as well as traumas that they will need to overcome. It will also enable them to resettle their nervous system and allow it to transition from being wired to protect and protection, to being wired for connection.

Author, transformative writer, educator and consultant Oliver JR Cooper, hails from England. His insightful analysis and commentary encompasses the entire spectrum of transformation for humans that include love, partnerships as well as self-love, self-worth the inner child and awareness. With more than two thousand eight hundred in-depth pieces that explore human psychology and behavior, Oliver offers hope along with solid tips.

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